Love Letter #61: Find Your Voice, Free Yourself

Have you ever been afraid to have a conversation because it felt difficult?

Maybe asking for something you want or need, or don’t want?

No matter how much you want to have the conversation, you can’t seem to do it.

I’ve been there.

I’ve put off having conversations because I was avoiding the discomfort in myself. It feels like I am avoiding the other person’s response, but really it’s my own discomfort I wrestle with. It feels unsafe to say what I need to say.

Can you relate to this?

I know it is safe to have the conversation. I mean, in my head, my rational mind knows this. But in my body there is a frightened child. No matter how much I reassure myself and that little girl, and know rationally that I am always safe, the patterns of old trauma still live in my cells.

I have bumped up against this pattern many times in my life and, up until now, I would simply ignore what needed to be said until someone else initiated the conversation, or didn’t. Even when my marriage was at the end, I couldn’t muster the courage to be the one to say so. 

This isn’t a criticism of the past, but rather an acknowledgment of what has hindered me from expressing myself. I share this with great compassion towards myself, that young girl, and everyone else. Most of us carry a wounded inner child that can overshadow our responsibilities as adults, until we recognize the underlying truth.

It is completely normal to feel afraid of difficult conversations. The fear of expressing our needs or concerns can feel overwhelming. It’s important to acknowledge that the discomfort we feel often stems from ourselves and not the other person’s response. Sometimes, it feels safer to avoid speaking, even though deep down we know it’s necessary.

Many of us can relate to the internal struggle between our rational mind and the fearful child within us. Despite knowing that it’s safe to have these conversations, past traumas and experiences can still affect us on a deeper level. It takes time and self-compassion to heal these wounds and find the courage to speak our truth.

Recognizing the presence of this inner child and showing compassion towards ourselves is a powerful step towards growth and healing. By acknowledging and understanding our fears, we can begin to break free from old patterns that hold us back. Remember, you are not alone in this journey, and it’s okay to take your time in finding your voice.

With Love,

Are you tired of letting fear hold you back from asking for what you truly want in life? Imagine breaking free from the shackles of hesitation and stepping into your power with confidence. That’s where I come in as your dedicated life coach.

Together, we’ll unlock the door to a future brimming with confidence, success, and unbridled joy. Are you ready to step into your greatness? Let’s embark on this journey together.”

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