Love Letter #97: Let Go of the Value of Sacrifice

If you read yesterday’s Love Letter, you know I’m a quitter, and proud of it. I shared some of my herstory of quitting. Today, I want to share a broader view of the power of quitting and choosing joy. 

Because, in a world that often glorifies perseverance, productivity, and grit, the idea of quitting can be seen as a sign of weakness or failure. But, there’s a big difference between giving up and knowing when to let go for the sake of one’s well-being and happiness.

For women, trained up in perfectionism and the disease to please, the pressure to juggle multiple roles and meet social expectations can feel overwhelming. But what if the most courageous thing a woman can do is quit what doesn’t bring her joy?

From a young age, most of us are taught the value of sacrifice. Whether it’s putting family first, striving for perfection in a career, or keeping the picture-perfect home, the expectations are relentless. Can you relate?

And society often applauds and celebrates women who seemingly can “do it all”. But, at what costs?

Constant sacrifice without regard for personal happiness is what leads us to burnout, resentment, and losing our sense of self. It important to recognize that more than ever quitting is a necessary step towards reclaiming joy and autonomy. 

This means having the courage to challenge the status quo, redefine success on your terms, and make your well-being a priority. We are often trying to prioritize our well-being but we’re not doing that. 

So here are three reasons why we should feel empowered to quit what doesn’t serve us any longer.

  1. Mental and Emotional Health: Continuously pushing ourselves to meet unrealistic expectations takes a toll on mental and emotional health. Quitting toxic relationships, stressful jobs, or draining commitments can be liberating and allow space for healing and self-discovery. Learning to say no is empowering!
  2. Authenticity and Self-Expression: When we dare to quit what doesn’t bring us joy, we create room to be more authentically ourselves and express ourselves as boldly as we choose. Embracing who you are, rather than who you think you should be, is a powerful form of self-love and empowerment. This is your life, and you get to decide who you want to be and how you want to express yourself…which is exactly what we do in The Art of Self-Approval™.
  3. Blessed Boundaries: Quitting can be an act of setting healthy boundaries. it’s okay to say no, prioritize yourself, and establish limits that protect your time, energy, and emotional well-being. Contrary to what others may think, this doesn’t make you weak, selfish, or unreasonable. Did you know boundaries are for you, not the other person? Want to know more…shoot me an email: elaine@elaineblais.com.

Quitting is about making conscious choices to align with your values, passions, and desires. It’s a journey of self-discovery and self-empowerment that allows women to live more authentically and joyfully.

With love,

If you are ready to start working with a life coach and give up the need to sacrifice yourself for others,  or you want to learn more about the impact that coaching can have in your life, let’s talk.

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